The long-awaited update! ;-)

So at the beginning of April I shared my (mournful) thoughts and experiences weaning Emma. She was weaning herself, not needing me as often, and I felt so sad about it! Well, it was a mixture of feelings actually – bittersweet sadness, frustration, and a little bit of confusion at the way I felt. I thought I was supposed to feel nothing but RELIEF! But that was not the case.

About a week after that post, Emma started teething (again) big time. Her top teeth are coming in and she is NOT enjoying the process. But that’s another story. ;-) The teething changed things for her for awhile and suddenly she wanted to nurse more often. So now we’re somewhere between nursing once a day (at night usually) and nursing up to three times a day (when she’s having a particularly hard time with her teeth). So we are in the process of weaning still, but once in awhile she comfort nurses. I really think this makes the transition much easier on both of us. And every time I nurse her, I look down at the little girl who is still a baby, still not quite a year old yet, and wonder if this is the last time. A little part of me is sad, but another part of me is excited for the future. Because this means that there will be new stages – running, talking, helping me in the kitchen, learning… there will be other joyful moments.

This morning before I was completely awake, I went through my usual morning routine. I took her out of her crib, stumbled into the kitchen and grabbed a graham cracker to give her, and gave her her morning sippy cup full of rice milk. I sat her down on the floor in the living room with her “breakfast” and sat on the couch to plan my day. I wondered if my husband would make coffee (oh please!). Emma took one look at the cracker and threw it down on the floor (the reason I have to vacuum every day). Then she turned around, pulled herself up to stand at the couch in front of me, and gave me the most pitiful look ever. I offered her the rice milk in her cup and she pushed it away, giving me the same tortured expression. As soon as I realized she wanted to nurse, I felt a rush of… something… relief and happiness. I was
glad she wanted to nurse, that she still needed me. I’m going to enjoy these last nursing moments, because pretty soon she’ll be ready to stop being a baby that way. Definitely bittersweet.

I’m glad I’m able to recognize these moments and enjoy them. I thank God for that – that I’m able to work at home and that I can be with my baby full-time. I wish every mom could be! And even if she can’t be home full-time, I hope every mom can slow down for a moment and look down at their child in wonder, and remember that time is going to pass so quickly… but they can enjoy the time they have right now.

Share Your Thoughts:

I would love to know how you felt when you were weaning! I have been around people who were nothing but relieved (or so they would lead me to think), and heard from others who felt the same
bittersweetness that I do. Guess I’m sentimental. :-)

Thank you sooo much for sharing this post! :-)



14 Responses to Adventures in Weaning ♥ Update

  • I’m glad you’re able to do a slow wean :-) I did a cold turkey one with my 13mo a few weeks ago and it was awful. (I think mostly for me!) He started biting, though, REALLY hard and with every nursing session, so I finally just said NO MORE. I’m still sad about it though :-(

  • Awww I have only weaned while preggo so it made it easier. But its def bittersweet! I acted like I was relieved but was totally sad on the inside, my family all thought they needed to wean at a year & let me know it! My boys have all been well over a year. I don't think Ry will be ready to wean any time soon.

  • Enjoy every moment you can. I just finished nursing my seventh and final baby. I am sometimes so sad to realize that I am done and that time in my life is over.

  • April: I’m sorry you had to go cold turkey, I’m sure that was hard! But I can totally relate, my daughter did that at about 10 months, even made me bleed once. Yow. I was tearfully tempted to quit then but finally got it across to her that it was not acceptable by telling her “No!” and setting her down away from me. She hated that!

    Jess: I think there is some relief, but it is really sad, too. People don’t really understand the sadness unless they’ve been through it themselves, though. Good job sticking to your guns with your kids despite what the family thought!

    Michelle: I’m sorry you’re done with your seventh (wow, I feel really bad for being sad about my first now – though she might be my only, you never know). Think of all the fun you’re going to have with grandchildren, though! :-)

    Thanks for your input, guys! :-) So glad to know I’m normal, lol!

  • My son abruptly weaned himself when he was just a little over 1 years. He got a really bad cold and didn’t want to nurse for a few days. By the time it ended he really didn’t have much interest in nursing and my milk production had dropped. It was bittersweet. I miss the bonding but not the hassle.

  • Oh, weaning for me was painful. I went through a TON of cabbage to relieve the pain and I stank because of it. My son never actually latched on to me, I pumped for one full year, so switching from my milk to regular was easy.

  • I’m so not looking forward to weaning Peyton. I’m kinda scared because just the thought of weaning him makes me incredibly sad. He still nurses at least 3-4 times a day, sometimes more and sometimes less.

  • I can’t even imagine weaning right now. The fact that I have to supplement AGAIN (very long story) makes me sad. I have no idea how I will handle not nursing at all.

    I’m glad you’re enjoying every minute. You will have those memories forever.

  • I totally loved nursing and it was bittersweet when they weaned. I’m nursing my third (and last) now and will probably have a harder time weaning him since he’s the last. You’re right though…there are so many other joyous stages to come!

  • Oh, this is so sweet! Some say comfort nursing should be avoided, but I say enjoy it while she is still a baby! That bonding process is so precious!

  • It is a bittersweet time, I was emotional about it as well. I have twins so I did lots of nursing tandem (both at the same time), but when they got older I nursed one at a time and less often, I was working and they eventually weaned by 7 months. It took me a long time to not miss the closeness and bonding. But once your over that hump you will find some many fun things that she is doing everyday and you can know you gave her a great start.

  • I didn’t wean my kids until they were 2. That’s what the American Academy of Pediatrics and World Health Organization suggests and I love it. They did eat whipped potatoes and peas and “adult foods,” but I supplement it with breast milk. Rice milk sounds like a great idea, but I worry because it has 0 protein, 0 fat, 20g calcium and no DHA… and human milk/cow’s milk has plenty of protein and fat, 291 calcium and lots of DHA.

    Is the rice milk your baby loves the chocolate or vanilla flavored rice milk? Is it sweetened? If so, that might be the reason she suddenly loves it so much.

  • Thank you for the encouragement, guys! :-)

    Sandy, the rice milk is plain, unsweetened, and enriched so it does have some protein and fat. The brand is Rice Dream. I do plan on switching to cow’s milk soon, though. She has a pretty rounded diet right now – she eats all the people food we eat as well as drinking rice milk and juice and nursing.

    I’ll keep nursing her as long as she wants it – she actually is nursing about 2-4 times a day right now.

  • My daughter is nursing about 2-4 times right now. I’m working on trying to wean her after her first birthday. I just know it’s going to be so hard!

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