Weaning is miserable business. Seriously.

I don’t know how I thought it would happen… maybe I thought I would be the one to initiate it. But it’s not me, it’s Emma. She’s done with me! *sniff*

Expectations

When I first started nursing, I was sure I wouldn’t last longer than six months. It seems to be a point that many moms start getting tired of it, or babies start slacking off some. My mom nursed me that long and I had met others who weaned at six months. But at six months, nothing changed. And we were doing so well that I decided to nurse until Emma was one year old. So seven, eight, nine, ten months passed.


Lil’ Miss Independent

Now we’re at the eleventh month… and suddenly Emma doesn’t want to nurse as often. Honestly, I’m not one of those moms who wanted to nurse her baby forever (please NO) – I mean, Emma has been eating the same food as “big people” since four or five months. There’s no reason for her to nurse much longer.

So now she’s drinking rice milk – and she LIKES it. Am I insane for feeling a pang of disappointment that she likes the rice milk? And I’m the one who gave it to her!

She’s nursing less and less and my body is saying, “Nurse that baby!”. What’s frustrating is that she’ll “ask” to nurse, then nurse for about 30 seconds – just long enough to get the milk going. Then her legs start wiggling and she wiggles right off me. She looks like she wants to come back, but something stops her and she cheerily moves onto something else. Or looks for something to destroy.


I Should Be Happy

When I first started nursing, right after Emma was born, I remember how painful it was. Oh the PAIN! And although I toughened up after a couple months (yeah, it took me that long), I was in pain again after Emma’s two bottom teeth came in. One time she even drew blood after biting me while nursing – OW! That was at about eight months and I remember being ready to throw in the towel then. But eventually I got it across to Emma that biting was not acceptable (via the wonderful advice from Judy of the Mommy News Blog. I started putting her down and away from me every time she would bite – she didn’t like that one bit so eventually she stopped biting).

My point? I should be happy the end is near! I should be happy Emma is cheerfully weaning all by herself! I don’t know what my problem is. I mean, it’s not like my kid is going to college and leaving me. Oh great, I’m becoming an insane, obsessed mom.

I know this gets easier. I do! I hope that I can come back to this post someday and laugh at myself. ;-)

In the meantime, at least I have chocolate. I’ve been eating lots of chocolate.

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What is your weaning story? (Misery loves company, LOL)

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6 Responses to Adventures in Weaning

  • I’m sorry this is so hard on you. Since I have no weaning advice for you I’m going to tell you the same thing I tell all my friends. Take it one day at a time, one hour, minute or second if you have too. It will get better.
    Watching our babies grow up is so bitter sweet. I am personally in denial about the whole thing. Lily could not ever possibly be big enough to go school.

  • No tops to give as I did not nurse my children, but I say if she’s ready, let her go her own way. She’s still a baby and you have her for quite some time yet. lol!

  • Oh, I’m sorry. :-(

    My first baby nursed until about two weeks shy of her first birthday. That was the fateful day she Bit Me For the Last Time. I felt like an ARTICHOKE. She would latch on, set her teeth in, and then LEEEEAAAAAANNNNN away to look at something else, stretching me to Mrs. Incredible proportions.

    At lunch time, I pulled out a bottle, filled it with skim milk (it’s what i had on hand – this was NOT premeditated), heated it up, dumped two teaspoons of sugar in and handed it to the baby. She never looked back, never asked to nurse again! (We cut the sugar down by bits – it was completely out by three bottles later.)

    When she turned two, I hid her bottles. ;-) Apparently, she doesn’t have much trouble with Transitioning!

  • Oh, Lindsey, that feeling is so normal! It’s the same thing I felt when my kids weaned, went to school for the first time, went to their first sleepover, etc. I want so much for them to grow up and develop, but it’s just bitter sweet!

    I actually got really bad mastitis with my youngest child when she was about 10 months, and had to wean. It just kept getting infected and bloody, it was awful! I remember realizing that I would probably not nurse again, and it was really hard!

    But you will get through!

  • I think many people don’t realize how emotional nursing is. Feeding someone from your body is such an amazing experience! I am still nursing my first child, so I have no advice with weaning, but my thoughts are definitely with you. If you go with “don’t offer, don’t refuse,” as she gets older, she may ask a couple times a week, who knows? She may just be ready to let go of it for nutrition, but maybe not for comfort.

    Best wishes for you!
    Jessie

  • I totally hear you on the weaning!!! I have five children. Three biological daughters and two sons. The girls I have nursed all till 15 months. My youngest at sixteen months is still nursing currently. I feel this pain with each child. I am constantly thinking will this be the last time I nurse? I’ve told my self this time, I will nurse her until she refuses me. I love nursing, it is such a blessing to be holding your child so close and sharing even a quick moment.

    I am an R.N. and a Lactation Counselor, at least in my life before five kids : ) I have NEVER heard a mother say ” I think I nursed her(or him) too long.”, but I have heard many times ” I wish I would have nursed her/him longer!” Keep it up, later you will be happy you did!!! We can encourage one another from afar : ) Blessings to you~

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