I know that you are only 2 1/2 (I remind myself of this fact every day), but this new little firecracker attitude you have is wearing mommy out!  Not that it isn’t cute – in fact, I think I initially encouraged it by laughing at your antics and created for myself a cute little pigtailed monster.

The problem is that you’re too smart for your own good.  No one told me I would have to be quicker and smarter than a 2-year-old.  No one told me that it would take EFFORT and ENERGY to be quicker and smarter than a 2-year-old!  You know that I’m pregnant and don’t move very fast anymore and you are totally taking advantage of it.  Mommy asks you to pick up your toys?  You look at me out of the corner of your eye and pretend not to hear.  You throw your food around even though you know better.  You’ve started spitting stuff out of your mouth just for fun.  You think it’s funny to pop me gently, hoping for an “ow!” so that you can hug and kiss the owie and say, “Sorry!” – only to start the whole thing over again.  You pretend you don’t know who Baby Isaac is, though I know you do because you look right at my stomach and yesterday even pulled my shirt up to check for a moment before putting my shirt back down firmly and saying, “Bye-bye, baby!”.  No pretty pictures of big sister kissing the tummy for THIS family.  You’ve started saying, “No!” with an impish grin on your face when I ask you to do something you don’t want.  And if you really want something you ask me about 45 times in 0.3 seconds – just in case I didn’t hear the first time.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad you’re finally really talking!  But wow.

I just want to let you know that pretty soon I’ll have my body back (and finally won’t be in pain when I move) and I will be able to CATCH you, little girl!  I won’t be so exhausted, and I’ll be able to get back into an exercising routine.  This is your last month of freedom, then we’re back to the norm.   Well, the norm with a new little baby brother added.  :)

And you’ll love him, I promise.  Maybe not at first – it’ll be a shock to find that the world doesn’t revolve around you anymore, but soon you’ll adjust and just be happy to have a playmate.  All this will be worth it.

I love you, little girl.  I’m glad you have such a fun personality and a great sense of humor.


I’m curious… how has your toddler adjusted to life with a pregnant mommy – either recently or in the past?


5 Responses to Dear Toddler (Soon-To-Be Big Sister)…

  • Ah, it was a little tough at first, especially tandem breastfeeding, but she loved her baby brother SO much, so she was absolutely fine. My only concern was her wanting to hold him all the time like her baby dolls lol

  • My kids are 27 months apart, so my son was at this stage when my daughter was born. He had no interest in my baby belly (other than to pounce on it every chance he got). He wasn’t happy when she first came home and it took him about 6 weeks or so to forget how life was before the baby. We all adjusted and they have always played well together. I did try to include him in things for her and I think that helped. He was great at handing me diapers or making her laugh.

  • Sorry for the delayed response to this post but I’ve been busy chasing my own 2 yr old.

    When baby first came home 3 months ago today (wow! time is flying) my toddler was excited and happy and so helpful. He still is to an extent. He brings me diapers, wipes, he tells me when the baby needs changing (I guess he’s got an awesome nose), he gives the baby his pacifier. He tells the baby he loves him and calls him “My Aida”(Aidan). “love mine baby brother” etc. so I definitely know he cares about the baby.

    Now.. here are some of the things he’s added to the list just recently even though he knows he’s not supposed to and is told each and every day for 3 months to stop doing it: pats baby on the head, kisses his face by jamming his nose into babies eye, practices taking babies clothes off when he’s in his swing and I’m not looking, fibs and tells me “Can’t sleep, Aida wake me up” even though it’s the other way around, has of 2 weeks ago decided he will put a pacifier in HIS mouth!!, pretends to be a baby doing this whole baby tantrum type of thing, constantly jumps on the couch, tells me “please mommy put me in time out” or “please mommy, want be bad boy”. I don’t normally use words like this when I’m talking about my kid but really, wtf? It’s like he’s starting to use reverse psychology on ME. I mean what 2 yr old asks to go in time out? *cry*

    I’m hoping things will get better after Winter.. maybe just be he has a case of cabin fever mixed in with a little bit of jealousy.

    As far as having time.. I have very little now. Baby is always hungry, 2 yr old doesn’t want to take naps anymore, it’s a bit overwhelming and seems to be getting harder instead of easier lol. This time around I want the baby to grow up faster and I feel a little bad that he doesn’t get as much attention as the first one did. But you know what, I am happy and feel very lucky. It’s just weird how things have changed so much.

    Here’s to hoping it’s easy for you and she adjusts really well!

    • Thank you so much for coming back and taking the time to share with me, Monica! It means a lot. Even knowing what could happen can help prepare you. :) I know there will definitely be jealousy issues because there already are but behaviors like that are hard to combat! Do you put them in time out like they’re asking for? lol Seriously, kids are SMART and manipulative when it comes to getting the attention they want. I’m constantly amazed by my daughter. And of course they have 20 times the energy we do so sometimes we feel worn down.

      Well I know things will get better for you and know I’m here, too. I think you’re right – after winter things will be much better. Emma thrives when she’s able to get outside every day and these kids do need to be kept busy. :)

  • It’s amazing what children will do to get your attention, huh!? Hang in there!
    My daughter was 4 years older than her brother when he was born. I don’t remember her having alot of attitude problems. The only thing she remembers being sad about was that I was in the hospital and she couldn’t come see me!
    Now he and wife having another baby! (J and E) Fun times in our lives!
    Praying all goes well with you and birth of your baby boy! Hugs!

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