After posting on the ridiculous Delivery Couture ($98 for a “gown” to wear while birthing your child), I started thinking about birth plans. A little over five months ago I was still pregnant and thinking about these things. I personally was trying to be flexible when it came to a birth plan because I heard that the best thing was to not worry too much and to be ready to go with the flow.
But I still found myself with a miniature plan:
♥ I did buy a special nursing gown (from Motherhood Maternity, and on sale so it was significantly cheaper and not near as… chic, lol… as the $98-dollar one). I planned on wearing it during the birth so I wouldn’t feel like a “patient”.
♥ I bought a yoga ball to hopefully help ease the contractions. I had heard it helped some people…
♥ Our hospital actually had a little jacuzzi in each room and since originally I had wanted a water birth (thank you, Lord that I didn’t do that – boy did I need pain meds!) I planned on spending part of my labor in that jacuzzi.
♥ I planned on using pain medications only as a last resort and not having an epidural if I could possibly help it (but I wasn’t totally against it, just hoping I would be able to tolerate the pain and make it unnecessary).
♥ I did not want to be induced.
So what was the result? I ended up being 10 days past my due date (that was NOT in the plan!), and I was scheduled for an induction. My water broke (well only part of it broke, as I found out later) in the middle of the night – the night BEFORE the day I was scheduled to be induced – and we drove an hour to the hospital with me hoping I wouldn’t have the baby in the car. We got there and I was already in so much pain (and tired) that I let them put the detested hospital gown on me and put me in a bed. I didn’t care one bit about wearing my nice pink nursing gown!
The yoga ball? Never came out of my carefully packed bag. lol I think I had more fun bouncing around on it in the three weeks before I even had the baby than any other time! Plus it did seem to help then, I had trouble just sitting on the floor or on the couch because I was soooo huge.
So anyway, I took one look at the jacuzzi and knew there was no way I was getting in there. Call me a wimp if you want, but I wanted pain medication!
I said yes when they asked if I wanted an epidural right away – and was so glad because I was in labor all night and the next morning and hardly felt anything… till the last three hours or so, then I was feeling some serious pain. Even with the epidural! I can’t imagine what it would have been like if I hadn’t had it…
Now I see why doctors don’t care for that written birth plan, lol. Although some people may be able to stick to their guns, I wasn’t one of those… and I’m still happy with the way it all turned out. I believe God was there through it all. :-)
Husbands. Mine was great through the whole thing and so supportive – he did want me to take pain medication if it was offered. I know he didn’t want to see me in pain. I remember watching “A Baby Story” on TLC and being shocked and horrified when the husband wouldn’t let his wife have pain medication even though she was crying and begging him – just because they had agreed earlier that they wouldn’t do it. And I believe that other women in their family hadn’t used pain medication so there was some pressure there. I know that there can be some risks to it all, and I do respect the women who decide not to use pain meds, but I would hope there could be some flexibility there! Unless of course the wife has told her husband, “Don’t listen to anything I say while I’m in labor!” lol. That’s a possibility, but I sure wouldn’t do that!